Are you Alpha Female? These 5 tips will save your relationships.

Anyone who knows me knows I’m all alpha female.  For years I tried to hide from that, but shit I’m over forty. I embrace every aspect of myself. Alpha female or not. It’s embraced.

If you’re an alpha female you’ve probably made the following complaints:

  • I need a man who knows how to handle me.
  • Just because I express myself doesn’t mean I’m angry.
  • I may seem strong but I still have feelings.
  • If I don’t do it for myself who’s gonna do it.
  • Men just need to step up.
  • I’m tired of always leading and making decisions.

My go to complaint was “Am I gonna have to start acting like a damsel in distress to get a man who wants to take care of me?”

Damsel in distress? Really?! I read too many damn fairy tales when I was young.  That’s just not me.

Alpha Female, I know it’s frustrating. Your heart wants a man and everything in you is telling you, you don’t need one. You’ve been doing it all on your own for so long.  It’s even a struggle when you’re in a relationship.  You’re a strong woman and you want what you want.

It’s time to follow your heart without losing your core essence. You can be gentle and fierce at the same time.

I married an alpha male because I learned how to hone my leadership skills, which are still in reform.

My husband’s not your usual alpha male.  Most alpha males run around shouting “I AM Alphaaaa Maleeee!!” from the roof tops. My husband, is one of those river runs deep kind of dudes.  He just IS. And, sometimes my Alpha can be overbearing. However, I’ve been honing those leadership skills, monitoring my alpha and stepping into strategic leadership when needed. It’s called ebb and flow, baby.

Needless to say. The other day I’m complaining about something I felt HIS alpha should have been showing up for and then God slapped me in the back of the head with a thought.

“Since you’re so alpha are you being a true leader?”

That stopped me dead in my tracks.  True leaders aren’t complainers. I real leader doesn’t make people feel horrible when they “miss the mark.” A real leader will inspire those around them to leadership.

A real Alpha inspires leaders to rise up out of ordinarily great men.

Are you constantly focused on the “short comings” of those around you?  Or, are you guiding, challenging and inspiring them to rise up?

Here are a 5 tips to help you step in to your Gentle and Fierce Alpha Female Leadership Role


  1. Don’t make it personal. State what you would like rather than what they aren’t doing right.
  2. Edify those amazing characteristics, they already have, that made you choose them in the first place.
  3. Connect the dots on how those skills translate to getting you exactly what you want.
  4. Let them know you believe in them.
  5. Do it all in in the name of Love. Love at the very core of every action is more powerful than criticism.

Look, these tactics are nothing new. You already have this skill. You’ve used it in business. So it shouldn’t be so hard to use it in your relationships.  You will feel ten times better when you stop shitting all over people and start edifying them to be great.

What are some of your leadership skills that you use in your relationships?

Leave them in the comments below.


Natasha McCrea, Love CEO


Natasha is a love and relationship coach who guides women in to living their best lives. "I believe women are the gatekeepers to love. We have more power than society has led us to believe and when we tap into that love power we can create the lives and relationships our hearts desire. I coach smart women who want to tap into that power and live a happier life.".. As an actress Natasha toured her one woman show, "Evolution of a Love Addict" Her mission in life is to encourage and empower women through all forms of media.  She is the Founder of Love CEO institute. The place that women promote themselves from Love Employee to Love CEO. She believes when you own it, it'll work for you. Natasha she lives in Los Angeles with her husband. Schedule A Private Coaching Session here:

  1. Natasha McCrea, Love CEO says:

    Do you ever kick in to Leadership mode to get what you want? What tactics do you use? Any from above?

  2. Some leadership skills I use in relationships are making decisions definitely, and guiding/helping someone grow. (:

  3. I read this article to my BFF. We both burst out laughing because we are very much Alpha females!
    Definitely learning to NOT to take things personal!

    1. Natasha McCrea, Love CEO says:

      Yep, it’s an interesting lesson to learn(sometimes daily) and I had to start looking at that characteristic of Alpha Female as a super power rather than a curse that no one understands. Definitely changed my perspective and how I am perceived by others.

  4. Christina Siebeneicher says:

    Love hearing how you work things out Natasha, also a sweet reminder of how much we’re alike:)

    1. Natasha McCrea, Love CEO says:

      Yes we are. Two peas for real.

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