When you decide to put yourself on the market it’s important you know that market. And sometimes that market may require a little more encouragement than a green light. You may be the one doing the asking.
Things you should know before you pop the question.
- Know where you are emotionally
- Have the big picture in mind
- Be yourself
- Schedule “the ask out” before an event or heading out with friends
Being willing to do the asking definitely comes with risks. First, you risk being the initiator in the relationship. If you’re okay with that, then cool. That’s not to say he can’t be trained into initiating, but you aren’t in the training business.
Know where you are emotionally.
If your ego is just a little bruised to begin with I say don’t ask. If your world will fall apart if he says, “no”, then now isn’t the time to put yourself out there like that. There’s a difference between a little sting if he says no and a full-blown Netflix and chill night with yourself, which will leave you even more depressed. It’s very important to know where you are emotionally.
Have the big picture in mind.
If you can put yourself in a place to risk everything to gain it all then the world is at your finger tips. You aren’t attached to the outcome(his response). You’re on a mission and having the big picture in mind knowing he’s just a piece in the puzzle.
Be Yourself and build relationship
We’ve all done it. We get in a situation and we start acting like a spaz. You wonder, “where’d this chick come from?” You’re all in your head and you start being a weirdo. In any sales situation its’ all about relationship. Yes, I said. Sales! We’re all selling something every single day and in this situation you are selling going on a date with you. So build relationship. Get to know him if you haven’t already. This tip should be an every day practice for everyone who crosses your path. Also, once you get to know him a little more you’ll be that much more comfortable when you pop the question.
WHAT IF HE SAYS NO?!
So let’s say you pop the question and he says, “No”.
Have your BFF on stand by
Acknowledge your feelings
You and the bestie have a 7-minute pity party and be done with it. Next!
If you scheduled “the ask out” before an event or heading out with friends you won’t have too much time for that pity party, anyway.
Put your big girl panties on and keep it moving.
Since you have the big picture in mind you know it doesn’t stop with him. Have your affirmations and your goals in hand to remind yourself that you are an amazing catch, you are beautiful, you is smart, you is kind, and you is important.
And remember there are 3.3 billion men in this world.
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