Last week, date night was a B.U.S.T. I don’t think we even tried to act like it wasn’t. With Ben’s new schedule he gets home later than usual and sometimes a brotha’s just tired.
Have you ever been in the mood to not make any decisions? You’re hoping your man will take the reigns and make all the decisions. The feeling you get when you’re tapped out of initiating and decision making is a overwhelming and you want to check out. Trust me, you’re not alone.
Sometimes, I get what I want and sometimes I don’t. Let’s talk about how to handle it when date night is a bust. I was in a mood and wanted Ben to initiate planning Date Night. Well let’s just say he didn’t. We failed. Yes I said we. We’re in this together.
The number one reason for failure is NO PLAN.
We had no plan. Keeping it spontaneous can sometimes work in your favor, but that wasn’t the case, for us, last weekend. Planning will help you on those days when you’re all tapped out. If you have date nights planned out in advance it will cut down on the stress when you’re overwhelmed. But, we had no plan.
So Date Night was a bust!
How do you handle it when date night is a bust?
#1 Remain calm and do not throw a temper tantrum. Throwing a temper tantrum will insure that not only date night is a bust but your whole weekend might go up in flames. Just don’t do it. Vent to a friend. Take a bubble bath. Have a nice glass of wine. But do not throw a temper tantrum.
#2 Take control of the situation by evaluating what went wrong and how you can avoid it happening again. Brainstorm together and come up with a handful of fun activities to do starting at zero cost to higher cost activities. Having a plan and sticking to the plan will help you stay on track.
#3 Turn Lemons into Lemonade – take advantage of the down time. When something happens you really aren’t in favor of, put your big girl panties on and turn lemons into lemonade.
You can turn a busted date night into a fun sex night . . .
. . . massage night, take a bath together night, exchange foot rubs with aromatherapy oil night, or take turns reading a book together night. There are a number of options to still guarantee a connected night versus a night in front of the TV, disconnected.
Just remember you can choose the outcome of your night.
It’s not about the circumstance it’s all about how you react to the circumstance.
We made some changes and date night is now on to Saturdays. This eliminates getting home late and being too tired. And I now have a few cool date night ideas up my sleeve.
Do you have any date night suggestions? Leave your suggestions in the comments below.