First things first. There are pros and cons to crossing that line.
- You know you’re compatible
- You already know each other’s ticks and nuances, basically that’s built in comfortability.
- You may have found your soulmate
- You could take each other for granted, because of the familiarity (No honeymoon stage)
- If it doesn’t work out splitting your set of friends could be tricky and even a disaster
- Ultimately you risk losing the friendship
You’ll have to ask yourself the hard questions:
- If you tell your friend you’re in love with them, what’s the worst thing that can happen
- If you tell your friend you’re in love with them what’s the best thing that can happen
- If you don’t tell your friend you’re in love with them, whats the worst thing that can happen
- If you don’t tell your friend you’re in love with them what’s the best thing that could happen
I mean sit down with a sheet of paper and answer these questions one at a time. Weighing pros and cons in your head is not enough.
Are you willing to live with all of these answers? If the answer is yes. Then, go for it. Spill your guts. You only live once, but you must be willing to risk everything to gain it all. Hey, everyone wants to be married to their best friend, right?
- Have you ever thought about us being more than friends?
- Could you ever see us being more than friends?
- I want you to know I’ve been in love with you for a very long time?
The goal is to start the conversation, see where your friend stands, and if it is something the two of you would give a try. I mean legitimately initiate dating. Be sure not to fall into the trap of bed buddies.
Let me know how it goes.