WOW!! Two and a half years ago while I was working full time, sleeping 3-6 hours a night, dog tired, and spending all my free time launching Love CEO Institute I was challenged to write down five goals I wanted to achieve in the next 12 months.
Have you ever been asked to write down your goals and you don’t even know where to start because you’re utterly exhausted and feeling hopeless? You don’t want to set the goals too big, because that means a lot of work and you don’t want to set them too small, because that just means you’re being a wuss. That’s exactly where I was.
I worked a day job while pursing an acting career and producing independent films. I was at the day job 7:30am to 4:30pm, and by 5:30pm I was at home in front of my computer, with my dinner, working on the launch of Love CEO Institute. Sometimes I’d work until 2/3am.
If you’ve ever experience being somewhere you have no business being, like a job or a relationship, then you know it’ll rob your soul.
I call it suicide on the installment plan.
I had this good job, worked with good people and earned a good pay. I had to put my big girl panties on and realized all this good stuff was blocking me from getting to great stuff. . . and that my friend will make you miserable.
I was annoyed all the time. Even at Ben. It was our first year of marriage when you’re already going to have minor annoyances, because you’re just getting acquainted with your new role and responsibilities. The first two years of marriage were a bit challenging for me and on top of it I was working myself to the bone.
When asked to write my goals it was hard because I wasn’t able to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but I did it anyway.
And this is what I wrote:
- 6-week European Vacation
- A workout regimen 3-5 days per week
- Beautiful Clean House to entertain
- Date Night Weekly with the hubby
- 7-8 hours of sleep every night
I wrote all of this when none of it was in sight. I was operating on 3 to 5 hours of sleep a night, my house was in disarray. I couldn’t even imagine a weekend getaway yet alone 6 weeks away. Hubby and I were getting about 2-3 date nights a month.
I wrote these goals on a whim and kept it moving. I only looked at it about 2-3 times that year. I thank God I had the tools to navigate that year. The years of counseling and us creating systems like date night, Sunday Check-ins, learning each others love language and a finance meeting got a sista through. We put in the work and had a plan.
You plan for everything else in life. Why not plan for life itself. Shoot most people spend more time planning their wedding than they do planning a thriving marriage. Planning is a great tool when it comes to love and relationships.
It’s time to write your plan
My plan was written and this is what happened.
6 Week European Vacation
- 1 year later I took a month vacation to Europe
A workout Regimen 3-5 days a week
- I am now working out 3-5 days a week
Beautiful Clean House to entertain
- Clean for the last 6 months…entertaining is coming next
Date Night Weekly with the hubby
- Yes!! It’s a marriage saver. And we now have a standing monthly reservation at our favorite restaurant.
7-8 hours of sleep every night
- Hell Yes!! And now my body and skin are thanking me for it
This type of planning applies to all areas of your life: Career, Relationships, Spiritual, Health
You can have the life you want. You must start with a vision.
Today I challenge you to write 5 goals you have for your life. If you really want to make a declaration, leave them in the comments below.