Here’s a sample of how I took my goal of getting married through my Big Girl Moda Operandi.
Goal(Resolution, If you insist): “Find someone to share my life with” (I know that sentence ends in a preposition, but grammar wasn’t’ the priority). I chose this wording rather than “Get Married” because I wanted to be more specific and ask for exactly what I wanted. Sharing my life with someone was more important than just getting married, because in my mind sharing my life meant being married. Hey I could have married someone who worked around the clock who I never saw and we lived separate lives and….okay I digress.
NOTE: Be specific. If I was going to knit pick I would say I should have worded this goal “Find someone to marry and share my life with.”
Year-End Evaluations: I had to look at the previous year and how I was conducting this area of my life. Trust me I was having fun. Going on dates with guys who had expiration dates like the milk in my refrigerator. We all know that person we can’t see ourselves spending the entire rest of our lives with but they’re “cool people”? Yes, I had to once again “Grow up and put my big girl panties on.” And look at what I was going to do different to get what I wanted this year. So I handed out pink slips. I am a firm believer you cant expect something new to move into space that is already occupied. So clean house.
Next-Year projections: To date quality men. This took me doing a little soul searching. What kind of person would be best for the job. I’m not talking about empty “lists”(Tall, Dark, handsome, PAID!!) I had to discover… WHO AM I, what do I need, what type of individual would best fit my personality? What can I bring to the table. Let me say that one again, What can I bring to the table?
Development of SOPs: From a business perspective companies learn their averages and push for so many impressions in order to get sales. I made a plan to join a photography group and produce my one woman show. This was a way for me to immerse myself in something I love. It does three things: enriches your life, makes you more attractive, and you make more impressions.
Planning: With my SOP the goal was to work it into my life. When and where would I take this classes and prepare for my show. I scheduled regular time for classes, rehearsal and marketing for my one-woman show. Being out and doing the things I love to do opened up my averages for dates, landing me more impressions that equaled more dates. Especially when being present and implementing the Geisha Girl Gaze. I met my husband at a party where I was marketing for my show.
Budgeting: What would it cost me? I scheduled the time and I did a budget of what it would cost to produce my show. And I found a meet-up photography course that didn’t cost a thing that met once a month.
With all of this I was open to receive that which I was planning for.