STOP!! IMMEDIATELY REMOVE THE FOLLOWING PHRASE FROM YOUR THOUGHTS AND YOUR VOCABULARY.
My eggs are drying up.
Imagine hearing people saying “I’m dying” everyday. How are you doing? “I’m dying” or “You know my family says I’m dying.” Technically we are all one day closer to our deaths. But no one really seems to focus on that. We are focused on living.
The same goes for your eggs. Which is nobody’s business. We know that every day we get older we produce less eggs, but you don’t need the millions of eggs you had when you were a wee little baby. You’ll really only need one or two if you want more than one kid.
And of course right now I know you’re thinking,”but society says…(fill in the blank).” We all know what society says and what our mamas and grand mamas say.
My question to you is, do you want to own the thoughts of society and your mama, that say… “You better get a man before your (that which shall not be named)?”
Hell No! You want YOUR truth to be the thousands of women who have healthy pregnancies and babies every year. That’s what you want to focus on. Check yourself! What are you putting in your brain? What are you searching for on the internet?
Here are a few tips that may help you stay positive during this journey to love and motherhood.
- Protect your thoughts. Are you obsessed with reading about dried up …you know what?
- Seek out positive statistics. Half the battle is your thoughts. Start here! This is fascinating.
Note: If you argue for your limitations you have every right to live with them.
Identify what you really want. A friend told me the other day that she really wants to be in a relationship and get married one day. Then, almost in the same breath she said. “I like my life. I don’t know if I want someone in it messing things up. I get to do what I want when I want without having to consider someone else.” It sounds like she would prefer to stay single. Just consider if what you want is what you really want.
- Set Boundaries with those in your circle. Tell them they’re no longer allowed to ask you questions about marriage or children.
Acknowledge your feelings, but don’t stay in them. You should never ignore what you’re feeling. Feel it. See it. Identify it. Now do what ever it is you have to do to get through it. Use support groups, counselors, journaling, or daily gratitude journaling. Do whatever it takes. Your feelings are real and if you ignore them they will scream louder for attention.
Find the joy in seeing joy in others. Listen carefully. Someone else’s joy isn’t about you. It’s about them. Your misery and their joy are two separate entities. Find the joy in seeing a friend or loved one experiencing joy. You will open yourself up to experiencing joy yourself and the law of attraction is fierce.
I understand this can be a painful place to be. It may not be such a light and fluffy subject for you, but you’re the author of your destiny. I want you to manage your emotions. Don’t stuff your feelings, acknowledge them. Get help from a coach or counselor to navigate the journey to your heart’s desires.